Sending dirty text messages is a convenient way to talk dirty to your man when you are not around. What kind of dirty SMS text messages should you send your man to keep him thinking about you?
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Dirty Text Messages To Keep Him Thinking About You
Keeping him thinking is the most effective use of dirty messages, according to me. Here is an example:
“I was thinking about you last night as I was falling asleep.”
As with some of the dirty talking phrases I wrote about previously, messages like this are not very direct. You’ll also notice that they don’t need to be genitive either. You want him to think about you, while also telling him something he would really want to hear.
It’s very important to keep in mind that when sending your man a dirty text message, it’s often better to send him a short message that doesn’t ask for a reply. This is a subtle sign of confidence in your man.
Dirty Text Messages To Build Sexual Tension
You can build sexual tension with your man using text messages. The texts you send can be quite intimate, but the fact that you and your man are quite far apart means that there is a barrier to anything intimate actually happening (barriers are what build sexual tension). Try sending these messages to your man. You may find that some of them are a bit wild and ‘out there’ while others are a bit quieter:
“If I didn’t have to go to college/work today, I would come over & blow your mind ;)”
The fascinating thing about this one is that it could indicate caste a lot of things. It could mean that you are about to give him an awesome blowjob…or it could mean that you are going to show him something cool. Being indirect and not direct like this will also make him think of you, which is exactly what you want!
You will build a lot of anticipation with your man with these messages. So when he finally does get a chance to be alone with you, he will be pretty much panting like a dog. You will find a lot of other effective ways to build sexual tension by talking dirty in the Dirty Talking Guide.
Dirty Text Messages To Arouse Him
Keeping him thinking about you and building sexual tension are two of the more subtle ways to send dirty text messages to your man. To arouse him more directly, send him a message. Try this:
“I want you on top of me now.”
When you have been seeing your man for a while, you will find it easier to send him messages like these. Otherwise, it may seem as if you are coming on a bit strong!
Dirty Text Messages To Tease Him
You need to be careful when texting your man a message to tease him. It’s imperative that you are not overly mean to him when you send them in case he gets the wrong idea. You might consider sending him the following to tease him:
“How come I’m always horny when you’re not around? Grrr!”
“If you were here right now, I would give you the blowjob of your life!”
The Big List of 101 Dirty Text Messages to Send Your Man
There are three types of dirty text messages. “X” text messages are the least dirty, but there aren’t that many of them because there are similar examples.
XX messages are steamier but don’t mean you’ve committed to having love with a guy.. just yet. XXX messages are the dirtiest of all and show that you’re serious about having a relationship with him.
8 Dirty Text Messages
These messages only hint at being dirty. They might be considered a bit more flirty or could even be missed by someone who is busy or oblivious. However, they can also work if you’re testing the waters. Even if he gets your meaning, he can respond with his own dirty text message or escalate the situation.
- I bought something we can use together.
- Let’s play a game [segue to dirty questions, commands, etc.].
- It’s been so difficult to concentrate at work/school today.
- I’m bored. What can I do to keep myself entertained?
- Look how dirty I look in my new dress [suggest lingerie, underwear, etc.].
- I can’t stop thinking about you. Oh wait, that’s exactly it.
- Can I stop by for lunch?
- Let’s share secrets.
XX Dirty Text Messages
It’s clear you’re in a sexy mood when you send these dirty text messages, and they’re less likely to be misunderstood. However, you’re not using the most explicit language yet.
- When you love sucking on things, what do you call it? An oral fixation? Yea, I’ve got that.
- I’m just thinking about the last time we were together. It felt so good.
- What’s the dirtiest fantasy you’ve ever had? I’ll tell you mine.
- Guess what I’ll do next time I see you.
- Send him a picture of two lingerie options from your closet or a lingerie store, and ask him to pick one.
- What’s the greatest memory you have of us having magnetism? (You can also describe your own).
- Sometimes I feel like I’m out of control when I see you. I just want to jump your bones.
- All week, I’ve been planning what I’ll do to you in bed. I’ll blow your mind.
- I bet I can make you squirm/moan/pant.
- I slept so well after I got home. We should do that more often.
- Do you think I should go commando tonight?
- Something will be different about my body when you see me next. It’s up to you to find it.
- Name a body part, and I’ll send a picture of it.
- I’ve been interested in rough [or gentle, sensual, etc.] magnetism for as long as I can remember.
- Let’s install a mirror in the bedroom.
- Sometimes just your kisses turn me on.
- You’re such an animal in bed. I absolutely love it!
- Do you think I make too much noise in bed? Next time we can try a ball gag.
- [Send an audio recording of you masturbating] Guess what I am doing in this clip?
- If you guess what I’m doing now, I’ll send you a picture of it.
- I just want to spend all night with your body next to mine.
- You’re so skilled that you could teach lessons in love!
- You scream for ice cream; I scream for ____ (fill in the blank).
- Do you know the most sensitive part of my body?
- If you FaceTime me right now, you’ll like what you see!
- I found something that reminds me of us. You wanna see it?
- Should we try roleplay in bed?
- I can’t believe how our bodies fit together.
- Let’s make a dirty movie tonight.
- Have you ever wanted to have love in public?
- What should we try next?
- Is your tongue made of magic? Otherwise, I don’t know how you do that.
- [Send a nude with your genitals and breasts blacked out]. I’ll show you the whole thing if you guess the number I’m thinking of! It’s between 1 and 10.
- [Send a picture of the local adult video/bookstore or section]. Guess what I bought!
- I miss you in bed… and in me.
- We should buy myself a toy that I can use when we can’t be together.
- I can’t figure out whether I like you best on top of me, beneath me, or next to me. What do you think?
- I found this new, and I’ve got so many naughty ideas! [Send a link to a specific page if you’d like]
- Let’s explore each other’s erogenous zones. There are so many!
- I know you’ve already had dinner, but what about dessert?
- I just got out of the shower. I haven’t even had time to get dressed first!
- I don’t care if you rip my clothes to shreds when you undress me. In fact, I’d prefer it that way.
- What I need right now: sleep, food, and love. Except I don’t care about the first two.
- Wanna know what I’m doing today? [When he answers “Yes”] You.
- Is it bad if I’ve already masturbated today and it’s not even noon?
XXX Dirty Text Messages
The dirty text messages below are the dirtiest of this list! There’s no playing coy. You want him, and he’ll know.
When you send these to a guy, he may expect you to be in love with him. Even though you have full bodily and sexual autonomy, it’s just helpful to know how guys might feel when they receive one of the following messages.
- I was so loud when I was thinking about you and masturbating. I hope no one overheard!
- I can’t help but touch myself when I think about you.
- I don’t think I’ll be able to wait long enough to take all my clothes off the next time we fuck.
- I can’t wait until you’re stripping me from my clothes, undoing every button, strap, and zipper, and doing whatever you want with my body.
- Come over.
- Every time I fantasize about us having love, I imagine you tying me up and having your way with me.
- Send a nude photo/selfie.
- I want to suck you better than anyone has before.
- Do you want to cum on my face/breasts/stomach the next time I see you?
- I’ll be wearing anything you want and doing anything you want me to when you get home/come over.
- I want to see everywhere you will fit in my body.
- You’re going to fuck me up against the wall next time we have love.
- I dare you to rub the back of my throat with you.
- Here are my favorite ways to pleasure you [list them in as much detail as you desire].
- Nothing feels better than when you cum inside of me.
- Let’s try titty fucking tonight.
- I love when I’m ass up on the bed, and you’re balls deep in me.
- I bet you can fuck me better than I fuck myself with my love toy.
- What kind of dirty talk do you like? I want to make you rock hard.
- I love the way my tastes are on your fingers.
- Soon I’m going to give you a surprise blowjob. You better be ready.
- I need you to spank me, Daddy. It makes me so wet.
- My favorite love position is when you ride me doggy style, and I have to bury my face in the pillows to keep from screaming so loud the whole block will hear.
- I wonder what you think about when I’m fucking you, my tits are bouncing in your face, and I cum on your hard dick.
- I just want to use your body: your tongue against my clit as I grind on your face, your hands inside me and rubbing my G-spot, and your dick buried inside me as I ride you to heaven.
- I know you want to fuck my ass. How about tonight?
- I’ve been wearing a butt plug all day in preparation for tonight.
- Sometimes I’m at work and I’m so damned horny that I squeeze my thighs together over and over until I can go home and jerk off. I wonder if anyone ever notices.
- It was so sexy when you were explaining/fixing/teaching something. My panties were soaked when I took them off.
- I’m using that new toy you bought me right now.
- Sometimes I can see your nipples through your t-shirt, and I imagine flicking my tongue against them.
- I’ve been working on my blowjob skills. Can I test them on you?
- I’ve been naughty with my workload/school today. Do you think I deserve to be punished?
- I wish you could feel how I feel when we have love.
- Can I practice my lap dance skills with you?
- I feel so amazing when I ride you. I hope it’s good for you, too.
- I know you’re at work, but you need to go to the bathroom and masturbate and think of me.
- I’ll pay you twice your salary if you come home and fuck me silly.
- You don’t have to masturbate tonight. I’ll play with your dick for you.
- I stopped by the grocery store on my way home and picked up something you can eat off my body.
- I’m dropping to my knees as soon as you walk in, so you better be prepared to brace yourself.
- I just figured out the perfect safe word. Guess we have to try it out now.
- 8 o’clock. My bed. What you wear doesn’t matter.
- Save some energy for me tonight.
- Tonight, I’ll do all the work in bed.
- When you get here, you can put your duffel on the floor and you inside me.
- If you get here in 20 minutes, I’ll do that thing you always ask about.
- Ready when you are [send a photo of you in bed]
- Sometimes I realize I’ve been stroking my phone like it’s your dick.
- I’ve made a mess in my panties and you have to clean it up — with your tongue.
- The last guy who fucked me was so bad that I had to think about you the whole time.
It is likely that you will find the advice I give in my dirty talking tutorial video to be extremely helpful if you enjoyed learning these dirty text messages but also want to learn my most powerful dirty talking tips for building sexual tension, turning him on, and keeping him attracted to you. Have fun!
If you’re looking for something a little tamer, check out these sexy text messages. Not sure if you’re ready for that? Instead, send her a flirty text message.
6 Dirty Text Message Tips
1) Just because we discussed dirty text messages doesn’t mean you can’t send your man these types of messages via email or private Facebook message.
2) You may be eager to start sending your man all kinds of dirty text messages, but it is best to test the waters with a few tame messages to see if he is interested. After establishing that he is, you can proceed to send raunchier messages. If you start off by giving him a message that’s really out there, then you risk him getting freaked out by it.
3) Keep things interesting by switching things up. If you’re already in a sexual relationship with the guy, you don’t need to always send dirty text messages to him. In fact, it can get a little boring. Mix it up with flirtier or more romantic messages to keep his attention.
Similarly, you don’t want to be too predictable. During your lunch or break, or when you get home from work, you might message him. But you can switch it up with good morning texts or send him a message when you’re standing in line at the grocery store.
4) Send him a dirty message as you are. You want to be dirty, but you want to do it your way. You may not enjoy sending super explicit text messages if you’re not usually blunt about sexual things.
Using crude language just because it seems dirty doesn’t mean you have to. You could use a bit of euphemism or innuendo – or you could always trail off. Leaving something up to his imagination can sometimes go a long way.
If you are more reserved or polite, then sending him something raunchy may be exactly what he needs to get his motor going.
5) Recognize that sending pictures – or even taking them – can be risky. Someone could view those pictures that you intended only for your partner if your device or even storage solution is hacked.
However, if you break up and he feels bitter, he could share them on the Internet or even with people you know. You might want to take photos that do not reveal your face or identify any birthmarks or body modifications. However, if you’re concerned, it might be wise not to take these types of photos at all.
6) Be careful about messaging him. It can be hot to send a steamy text when he is surrounded by people. If he’s projecting his screen in a meeting at work, you don’t want to do that. Also, some people dislike being interrupted by messages at certain times. Find out what he likes, so you can always send him a message.
He can use his phone’s Do Not Disturb mode or turn off message notifications. Whenever he doesn’t want to be distracted or have them pop up on his screen. Some messaging apps have a “black box” or private conversation feature that helps to ensure that no one but you sees those dirty messages you’ve sent.
It could end up with him ignoring your texts if you don’t follow those rules.
After mastering the art of sending dirty text messages, you can use it with your current partner, new lovers, or even people you just want to flirt with.